When I titled my debut novel 365 Days of Becoming, I knew the word “becoming” held a
certain weight — a quiet power. It’s a word that suggests movement, growth, and
transformation. But what I’ve come to realize is that becoming isn’t a single destination we
arrive at, neatly tied with a bow. It’s not the moment we land the dream job, fall in love, or
finally check the last item off our to-do list.
Becoming is something far more nuanced. It’s the unfolding of who we are, moment by
moment.
Why Becoming Isn’t About Reaching a Destination
We live in a world that loves measuring progress. Promotions, accolades, new relationships —
these markers often define what it means to be “successful.” But if we only focus on these
outcomes, we risk missing the deeper, quieter transformations that happen along the way.
In 365 Days of Becoming, Reilly sets out on a journey of self-discovery. Like so many of us, she
thinks she’s searching for clarity, healing, and a sense of certainty. But what she truly discovers
is that life isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about becoming more of who she already is.
Her story is a reminder that we are constantly evolving — not just when things go according to
plan, but also in moments of heartbreak, uncertainty, and stillness.
The Power of Embracing the In-Between Moments
It’s easy to feel like we’re stagnant when we don’t see visible progress. But what if the most
profound growth happens in the spaces we can’t measure?
Becoming is waking up and facing the day, even when self-doubt lingers.
It’s choosing to sit with discomfort instead of running from it.
It’s allowing ourselves to be seen and heard, even when it feels vulnerable.
These in-between moments — the ones that rarely get celebrated — are often where we find
our truest selves. And the beautiful thing? We don’t need to have all the answers to be “in
progress.” The act of trying, of showing up, is a form of becoming.
Letting Go of the Need to Have It All Figured Out
We’re often taught to fear uncertainty. But what if not knowing is part of the magic? When we
stop trying to control every twist and turn, we make space for growth we never could have
planned.
Reilly’s year of becoming wasn’t without obstacles. She faced fears, confronted painful
memories, and learned to navigate life on her own terms. But each challenge shaped her in
ways she couldn’t have anticipated — not by leading her to a perfect ending, but by guiding
her to a more authentic version of herself.
That’s the essence of becoming — allowing yourself to change without needing a final
destination in sight.
Your Own Journey of Becoming
As I reflect on Reilly’s story and my own, I can’t help but wonder — how often do we dismiss
our own growth simply because it doesn’t look the way we expected?
Maybe you’re navigating a career pivot. Maybe you’re healing from a heartbreak or
discovering parts of yourself you never knew existed. Or maybe you’re simply in a season of
stillness, unsure of what’s next.
Wherever you are, know this: You are still becoming.
Even when it feels like nothing is happening, life is shaping you. Every decision, every
experience, and even every setback is a part of your unfolding story.
Becoming Is a Lifelong Act of Courage
The most beautiful realization I’ve had — and one that I hope 365 Days of Becoming conveys
— is that we are never truly “done” becoming. There’s no finish line, no final version of
ourselves we must strive for.
Instead, becoming is an invitation. It’s the courage to keep learning, to embrace the unknown,
and to allow ourselves to grow in ways we never imagined.
So, the next time you find yourself questioning your progress or wondering if you’re “there” yet,
ask yourself this: What if the journey itself is the greatest part of the story?
Final Thoughts on Embracing Your Journey of Becoming
If Reilly’s story resonates with you, I hope it serves as a reminder that your own journey is just
as valuable — no matter how uncertain or imperfect it may feel.
And if you’re curious to explore her full journey, I invite you to read 365 Days of Becoming.
Through her experiences, you might just find reflections of your own
